“Who in the world am I? Ah, that’s the great puzzle!”
(Alice in Wonderland, Lewis Caroll)
Welcome to KJ Ratcliffe Consultancy
I specialize in relationship growth through communication. I help you to learn about who you are and what you want from your life and from your relationship. I know what it feels like to wake up each day wondering what is happening and why you no longer feel noticed.
You have come to the right place. You no longer have to second guess yourself or think twice before you suggest an outing or a new experience. I can help you connect with that chatter in your head and calm it down. I can help you to know what you want and get it.
I am a fully accredited Coaching professional and I have chosen to work with women like you to help you to get the best out of your relationship with your partner.
I am introducing you to the newly developed programme that has taken me over two years and a lot of research to complete – Communicate With Confidence for Connection. This programme begins by helping you to understand at a deeper level the person that you are. Throughout your childhood, you learned from your caregivers and other important influencers what you were required to do and how you would act to survive and develop. As you grew in your teens you re-evaluated some of this information and changed some behaviours. I will take you through a timeline and help you to reconnect with your learning.
This programme takes you into the second module by looking at how you see the world and what is important to you. We do this using various techniques and we spend time developing stronger boundaries. This programme is a communication development programme and will increase your resilience and courage to say what you feel is important in a way that will increase your chances of success in achieving what you want.
I take you through modules on negotiation and conflict resolution, using techniques and strategies that I have used throughout my adult life and I have researched the development of those techniques and I am sharing my findings with you.
Take a look and if you have any questions, please contact me.
Relationship Coaching Packages
I am so excited about my Relationship Coaching Packages. They focus on moving your thinking away from the problem towards the solution.
I will help you to understand the stories that you have told yourself as you grew into adulthood, those stories about the relationship that you dreamed of. I help you to go back to basics and realign your story; to define what you need and how you can make it happen.
I will help you build your team, the ‘we’, whilst allowing room for the ‘me’ and the ‘you’. I will help you understand the hidden message that couples send to each other and help you to speak your truth and communicate with love and understanding to give you the relationship that will work for you and for your partner.
Take a look below and see how each stage of your relationship is covered. I will always listen on a deep level to what you say and how you say it. Together we will explore your inner desires and the actions that you will take. You will move forward knowing that you’re in a safe place.
Those First Dates!
You have met someone and you are glowing. You cannot wait to see this person again. You think about them all the time and you can remember the smallest detail of that first evening that you spent with them. You can remember the taste of that kiss and the way that they smile and the touch of their hand in yours. You feel so excited!
You lie awake thinking through what they said and how they said it. That catch of breath just makes you want to trust them and tell them everything!
But, something is stopping you and you are not sure what is getting in the way of that honesty and the feeling of being fully relaxed.
I can help you to work this out. You can feel more confident and secure and also, know when and if you should exit and how.
Living the Dream
You want the relationship that you have always dreamed of. You know that your partner says they love you, but you know that your partner is not being fair or understanding what you need.
The relationship has changed. The sex is hot! You feel the connection. Then, something is said or done that shows you that your relationship has problems. Your partner is causing the problems and you do not know what to do or say. There have been arguments and hurtful things have been said. You make up later but you want things to change.
I can help you understand how to work as a team and make some changes to the dynamics of your relationship. You can have a process that helps you to keep the peace whilst being firm about what you will accept and what you will not!
Losing the Magic of Love
You and your partner have been together for years! You are now wondering what has happened? Over the years you have had your ups and downs but now you feel tired!
All feels lost and you do not know how to find that magic again. It hurts.
You awake in the morning and your partner has gone. You know that they will not hurry home. You have not communicated properly in days, you feel like you are losing everything. You feel lonely and unloved and you want the magic back!
I can help you find your way forward to realign your relationship with your partner. You can take the lead to re-establish connections with your partner that, if they are agreeable, will enhance your relationship and refresh it with new experiences and new ideas for connection.